500 Days of Summer Review

500 days of Summer  is a romantic comedy story of an aspiring architect but work as a writer in a greeting card company, Tom Hangen who thinks that he finally found his true love.  Tom is a hopeless romantic, a firm believer in love, fate and destiny. Upon meeting his boss’s new and attractive secretary, Summer Finn, Tom believes that he has already found his soulmates. Unfortunately for Tom, Summer doesn’t believe in true love and wanted to keep their relationship casual. Summer’s refusal to believe in true love didn’t stop Tom from continue to pursue her. However Tom’s persistence hardwork is for naught. Tom enters into deep depression after they broke up and become even more devastated after knowing that Summer got engaged to someone else. He quits his job and decides to apply for an architect job.

The moral value of this story is high expectation sometimes might results in depression.  For example, after discovering that he and Summer had shared many common interest,  Tom decides that Summer is his soulmate and the one he would marry. Despite Summer telling him that she was not interested in serious relationship, Tom believes that he can convince Summer that love is real. When their relationship ends, Tom become depressed and seemed to lose his will to live. He keeps thinking back to their 500 days together to try to figure out where things go wrong. In my opinion, when Summer said that she was not interested in serious relationship, Tom should have prepared himself from the beginning to expect the worst. At least it might save him from further heartache.

I know this sounds weird but a character from 500 days of Summer that excites me the most is Paul, one of Tom’s best friends and acted by Matthew Gray Gubbler. Matthew Gray Gubbler is my favourite actor after Johnny Depp and Huge Law. The moment I saw him as Dr Spencer Reid, a born genius and young FBI agent in television series Criminal Mind, I’ve fallen in love with him since then. And I think Paul is a very interesting character, although none of his advices can heal Tom’s ailment. He is charming and not to mention sweet especially when he talks about his girlfriend, Aiden.

When I first I saw the scene at the beginning of the story where both leading characters were sitting on a bench overlooking the city holding hands, I expected that they will ended up together and live happily ever after like a common Hollywood rommance story. In first glimpse, they looked so perfect together, seemed so ideally matched and it was a bit shock when their relationship ends.  I think this movie is very unique and different from common romantic story, where both male and female leading characters marry and live happily ever after or one of them died or divorced and the story will end up either happy or sad ending, in this movie, both leading character broke up and each of them found their true love.

500 days of Summer is a story about heartache, heights and pitfalls in relationship, heartache and love.

Power Of Time

Time is not limitless. Is is not something we can restore in our closet and use it when we want it. It doesn’t matter that you are the president of a multi-billionare company rich and poor or even calculus geek, each of you received 24 hours a day which equals to  1,440 minutes or 86,400 seconds! No more and no less. Sadly, there are only a number of people in this world actually realized the importance and the real power of time.

Time is precious, even worth than mountains of diamonds. No matter that you are dead rich and capable of buying the entire world, no amount of money or tressure could make up the lost time. Therefore, as clock continue to tick, we must treasured every seconds and minutes that passed.  There’s a saying even said that we must let the time chased us and not the other way round.

You need time to get what your heart desired in this life. If you wait for extra time to appear and take things for granted, you better be careful as  you might lose the game of life. Through right time management, you can “create” the time you need, and not just wait for it to come. Wise time management can help you find the time for what you desire to do or need to do.

So much to do but so little time. Most people feel like they have too much work to be done in short notice. But time flew so fast and because of their poor time management, some work left unfinished. When this happens, they started to blame lack of time for any problems that arise. By planning your time wisely, you will have more time to accomplish more works than you expected.

There are many things you can do and tools to use to manage your time effectively. There is a lot of time wasted each day, which can be put to better uses. There are changes you can make, which will effectively increase the time you have at your disposal every day. Thinking, planning, finding out how others manage their time, and reading books and articles on time management, will develop these skills and give you good ideas.

Among the many changes that you can make to manage your time, there is one that is important  that is getting up early in the morning. Give up watching TV or plating computer games till midnight and go to sleep a little earlier than usual. It will then be easier to wake up earlier. Even waking up 15 minutes earlier would be great. It is a time of quietude, before everyone else wakes up, which you can devote to doing things, for which you have no time during the day, such as reading, meditating, exercising or planning your day. You will be surprised at how much works can be done if you fully utilised each seconds, minutes and hours that had been given freely to you.

To get rid of the feeling that you have much to do but so little time, feel and think as if you have all the time in the world. This will help you feel calm and enable you to focus on what you are doing, without stress and strain. You should at the same time plan your time well, not waste it on useless matters, do everything you can at the best of your ability, never procrastinate, act with discipline and focus on what you are doing.

Dear Miss Liyana,

http://www.helpguide.org/mental/children_divorce.htm 

Recently while I was reading a newspaper,my eyes was merely stuck when I saw this one particular title. This big, glaring title specifically caught my attention. It was about the divorce between famous Hollywood couple, Jennifer Lopez and March Anthony. In my opinion,they really looked good together and the marriage seems just fine and I really don’t understand how such things could happened. Lopez’s decision to end their seven years marriage sent the fans in total shock and people mourned their sudden separation, especially she just gave birth to twin three years ago.

Talking about divorcé, it had been such a hot topic now in Malaysia. The divorce rate is getting higher as year passed by and this is really terrifying.

It makes me ponder for a while. What would happened to their children? Yes,they are still young and know nothing about divorce, but one thing I can assure is when they grow up, they will start wondering why their parents didn’t live under the same roof and why their parents are not together. 

What if their children were older? Imagine their feeling when the image of their perfect family that they were so proud of become a shattered illusion.  To see their parents suddenly didn’t talk to each other and to witness the relationship between both parents become sour, it must be a devastating sight.

After all, it was every child’s unspoken dream to see their parents marriage lasts till the end. To see their parents suddenly become bitter to each other. Hence, their children become the victim, as they have to choose between their mother and father. To cornered them to do such a hard decision is really pitiful. 

This is the effect of divorce affecting the child. To be a parents, it is not an easy tasks. One must know their responsibilities and how to tolerate between each other. When we start to understand this fundamental we might be able to stop divorce from happening.